ajfdkhasjkfdas. ohmygosh anon… nooooo, yoooou’re adorable. too kind. <33333
ajfdkhasjkfdas. ohmygosh anon… nooooo, yoooou’re adorable. too kind. <33333
Ooooooh shit! Thanks for the pro tip, you beautiful grey bastard. ;D
Not sure why you sent me this, but I like it. Catchy song. *w*
(*ﾉωﾉ) - embarrassing moment
Basically my whole life is an embarrassing moment but specifically… Well okay generally because I can’t think of a good example but I trip up over my words A LOT. Like, I’ll be talking so fast that my words bunch together or I’m really anxious/nervous so my teeth and tongue suddenly don’t want to work together and I stumble over the words I’m trying to say or mispronounce simple words. It sucks and I HATE IT.
You can still discuss it…. I mean, I suppose I can understand why you’d be turned off because of my responses, but I’m not totally shutting you down here. I’m opening up avenues for you to EXPLAIN YOURSELF, but if you’d rather not… that’s up to you.
You didn’t ruin my night.
vent. I’m not attacking you, but your response made me realize it could seem that way. Really, I wanted to get some input on what I think, to discuss it, and perhaps realize that my opinion is malformed. I’m sorry I upset you, Jordan.
Whether your message was an attack or not, it’s still really naive and arrogant to assume that people who deeply love and are affected by fiction don’t have positive, healthy support networks in real life. I’ve got two best friends who care about me and many other acquaintances and friends who also care about me on some level or another, I’ve got a mother, brother, and grandmother who love me to the ends of the earth, I’ve got access to all the help and support I need, my support networks are healthy and present, but I’m still really attached to certain fictions. It doesn’t make my real life any less valid and it doesn’t make me unhealthy. Also, no where does it say that being deeply attached to fictional characters mean you aren’t attached, or less attached, to the people in your life. Sure, I love the shows I watch and I’m emotionally attached to certain characters… but I love my friends and family more because I know they’re real. Fiction doesn’t replace the people in your life, it adds to them and to who you are as a person. So yeah, your opinion is pretty malformed. I mean, yes there are unhealthy aspects with being attached to fiction but there’s unhealthy aspects to everything in life, like I already said. Idk man, I just don’t dig presumptuous behavior and it bugs me that you’re okay with using my name but you can’t openly discuss this with me.
I’m sorry if I’ve scared you into being anon, but I just feel strongly about this. I might seem pissed, but I’m just annoyed and upset. I won’t attack you for showing your face because that’s petty and immature (and I’m neither of those things). Feel free to keep up the discussion off anon if you want… or on anon, I don’t run your life.
Also, I’m really interested to know where this even came from???? Like, why’d you feel the need to even vent to me about it anyway? (curiosity killed the cat, eh?)
First of all, what the FUCK prompted this?
Secondly, you’re so wrong that it’s painful to read your message. It’s in no way ‘unhealthy’ to form an emotional attachment to fiction. I will give you that there are certain times when an emotional attachment to something fictitious could be deemed ‘unhealthy’ (if a person started believing it to be actual reality, etc) however simply connecting with fiction on a level that makes you sad when it ends or when you lose a character isn’t the least bit unhealthy. Forming emotional attachments is a very human thing to do, so when people delve into these fictitious worlds and realities there is a certain level of attachment expected. Now, there are of course people who read books or watch movies/tv shows and appreciate it on varying emotional levels for just the amount of time it takes to finish whatever they’re reading/watching and leave it at that. Not all people get all that devoted to those types of things, which is perfectly fine and good. However, there are still a lot of people that do, which is also perfectly fine and good. Honestly, you’re definitely on the wrong website if this pisses you off, but I digress.
Fiction is a fabulous form of escape for people and when you use fiction as an escape, you’re going to get attached to it. Using fiction as a big form of escapism can be unhealthy yes, but many people use it as an escape but also lead very healthy lives in reality as well. I’ve personally used fiction as an escape since I was young, particularly after my dad died. It was just easier to jump into Harry Potter or Luke Skywalker’s life than my own. It wasn’t a healthy form of coping, but it helped… even before then I felt an emotional attachment to those characters and their fake worlds and lives, though. It was used as an unhealthy coping method but I’ve since learned how to deal with my reality in a better way, but this hasn’t stopped my love for fiction. Despite my own personal struggles, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to live someone else’s life for a little while. If you’re living your own, who’s to say it’s unhealthy to be Katniss Everdeen or the man who invented time for a few hours before bed each night (or whenever it is you wanna delve into your own favorite fictional world)?
Fiction as an escape isn’t the only reason people love it, though. Fiction is fun! Fiction is imaginative and beautiful and creates whole new places and lives that you would never have gotten the chance to experience if not for the book or movie or show or game or whatever it is you’re into. These new and unique experiences elicit emotion from people and that emotion leads to bonds. Harry Potter is the best example I can think of because it has meant so much to me for so long and it means so much to so many millions of others as well. Just imagine how creative and in depth the Wizarding World is, think for a second how well J.K. Rowling developed her characters and took the time to really make this fictitious place come to life. All of this woman’s hard work ended up creating a grand place of fiction, but so many millions of people have formed emotional attachments to it because of how intricate and wonderful it is. There’s nothing unhealthy about that. There’s nothing unhealthy about caring for these incredibly well developed characters, there’s nothing unhealthy about being sad when they die, or when the magic comes to a close. This goes for all fiction, really. Why should anyone feel ashamed for shedding tears over the death of one of their favorite characters? Why should anyone feel ashamed for being upset when their own slice of fiction is done and over with? Why should anyone feel ashamed for letting the creativity of another person bring joy into their life, even if it’s just for a little while?
One final point I’ll make is that while fiction is indeed fake reality, there is almost always some real life lesson you can take away from it. Harry Potter teaches the power of love, compassion and friendship, as one example of thousands that I could list. There is quite nearly always a thread of reality strung throughout fiction that ties it all together. Why is this? Because real people create this fiction. Fiction doesn’t just serve to entertain or use as an escape, it serves as a great and powerful tool to teach. Maybe it’s to teach love like J.K. Rowling did, or maybe it’s to teach the importance of personal strength, or the downfalls of greed, or maybe even something not so positive. You don’t always have to learn your life lessons from reality or from your parents or from your own mistakes. Sometimes the mistakes of fictional characters, or the lessons from their parents or realities, can be enough.
I think as long as you’re in touch with your own reality, there’s absolutely no shame in loving fiction as passionately as you would love anything else in this world. There’s not enough kindness and passion in the world, and sometimes all it takes is a little bit of fiction to bring that out in people. I really don’t think it’s at all unhealthy. I mean, people go nuts over sports or bands or their own hobbies… There’s an unhealthy side to loving reality, just like there’s an unhealthy side to loving fiction. The line between those two sides, healthy and unhealthy, is different for everyone and it’s not YOUR CALL to decide where that line is.
Also, just because people form bonds with fiction doesn’t mean they don’t have fabulous realities. I know lots of people who have deep emotional bonds with something fictitious, yet they lead perfectly normal and healthy real lives, full of friends and activities and social interactions. It’s a really naive thing to assume that people who love fiction don’t also love their reality.
This reply comes from a very emotional and personal place, so I’m really sorry if it’s disjointed or makes little sense. If you’d like more educated and intelligent explanations, please refer to many, many statements and articles written by authors, journalists, scholars, and people who are generally much smarter than me. I pretty much know why you chose me, of all people, to send this message to, but it was kind of a mistake. I know I write a lot of things about the fiction I love, my tags are rife with DRAMATIZED statements, but if you don’t know me then you honestly don’t know whether my love for fiction is unhealthy or not. It rings true for anyone you don’t know, and sometimes even for people you do know.
…..this is really long and really unintelligent and I’m a little embarrassed to post it because this is a total rant and it makes me look stupid because I’m so shitty about stringing my words together when I’m pissed, but I’m posting it regardless. I stand by my statements, whether they’re intelligently strung together or not.
Well, from the way her lips moved it didn’t look like she said anything about her arm. I don’t know if she said ‘shut the fuck up’ and I really don’t care all that much. I don’t care for her and I never really have. Her music is catchy but her personality is that of a plastic bag with jealousy issues.
Shit happens I guess. The internet only makes it worse.
I know this is spam, but just in case any of you guys wanna follow - jordanpaigex
That’s my twitter handle and facebook url too.
Sorry this took so long to get back to, I just saw the notification.
First of all, MAJORITY is not the word you’re looking for. In fact, you’re looking for a phrase. “Loud minority” is that phrase. The silent majority of feminists, yes even on tumblr, are not “misandrists” and are in full support of what feminism truly stands for. I consider the loud minority feminists the Westboro Baptist Church of feminism. They’re loud, they’re ignorant, and they spew hateful views that none of the rest of the larger group share.
The only other ‘equality groups’, as far as gender equality is concerned, that I’m aware of is the Men’s Rights Activists and all I’ve seen from that group is a bunch of high flying bull shit. I don’t subscribe to the whole “cry me a river fedora boy” shit that does get passed around, but I also think that a lot of what the MRA does is just in retaliation to feminist movements because they’re scared. Now, that doesn’t mean I don’t recognize the very REAL problems men face and the equality issues in their group, but I wholeheartedly believe that if the MRA stop trying to shut down feminists then their problems would find solutions. Especially considering a few of the hard hitting issues they face are directly tied into the equality issues women face. I went off on a tangent, but my point there was that I just don’t know enough about any of the other groups to make comments on that.
I’m sorry if this makes very little sense as I’m fucking tired as hell. Basically what I mean is that I can understand that hesitance to identify as something with a loud minority, but everything has a loud minority and that doesn’t stop people from identifying as Muslim, Christian, Republican, Democrat, etc.
Feminism is pure and simple about EQUALITY. Ignorant fucks on both sides of the fence paint it in all shades of wrong, but it’s simply about equality. I guess it doesn’t matter what you label yourself as if that’s the main goal you’ve got… It just burns me hard when I see people (primarily it bugs me when it’s women) say how badly they want equality but get into the most awful tizzy when you suggest they might be a feminist.